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Song of Solomon - Secrets To Wondrous Passion

Song of Solomon - Secrets To Wondrous Passion 

­Psalm 71:14-24 Saved and Singing
Ps 71:14 “(12 God, don’t be far from me. My God, hurry to help me.) But I will always hope, and will add to all of Your praise. 15 My mouth will tell about Your righteousness, and of Your salvation all day, though I don’t know its full measure. 16 I will come with the mighty acts of the Lord Yahweh. I will make mention of Your righteousness, even of Yours alone. 17 God, You have taught me from my youth. Until now, I have declared Your wondrous works. 18 Yes, even when I am old and gray-haired, God, don’t forsake me, until I have declared Your strength to the next generation, Your might to everyone who is to come. 19 Your righteousness also, God, reaches to the heavens; You have done great things. God, who is like You? 20 You, who have shown us many and bitter troubles, You will let me live. You will bring us up again from the depths of the earth. 21 Increase my honor, and comfort me again. 22 I will also praise You with the harp for Your faithfulness, my God. I sing praises to You with the lyre, Holy One of Israel. 23 My lips shall shout for joy! My soul, which You have redeemed, sings praises to You! 24 My tongue will also talk about Your righteousness all day long, for they are disappointed, and they are confounded, who want to harm me."

Observations: 71:1-13 See post on 1 Samuel 1 for vv 1-13, in which David calls out to his rock and refuge for rescue from his enemies.
71:14-24 The situation looks desperate, yet David expresses hope in God (and asks Him to hurry). David vows to tell of God's righteousness as He delivers and saves him. He doesn't know the full measure of what God will do, but will praise Him for what he does know and has experienced. God has caused him to understand Him from his youth, and David looks forward to continuing to praise God to the next generation so they can know Him. God's glory and might extend beyond just helping His people. He also disciplines and revives them, and rewards them. The last verses might have been written after the deliverance he sought, as God has acted in redeeming him from his enemies, and disappointed those who wanted to harm him. Thus the redeemed declare His righteous praise.
Application: Never abandon hope in a righteous and faithful God; He rescues His people who call to Him, so they can praise Him. Start singing...
Prayer: Mighty and Faithful God, You are righteous in all Your ways, and totally worthy of my trust and praise; help me proclaim Your praises to future generations, so they too can experience Your righteousness. Thanks. Amen.
Proverbs 18:17-21 Relationships Need Words to Live
Pr 18:17 “He who pleads his cause first seems right; until another comes and questions him. 18 The lot settles disputes, and keeps strong ones apart. 19 A brother offended is more difficult than a fortified city; and disputes are like the bars of a castle. 20 A man’s stomach is satisfied with the fruit of his mouth. With the harvest of his lips he is satisfied. 21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love it will eat its fruit.“

Observations: 18:17-19 A triplet on relationships, and a couplet on speech go together, since it's impossible to have a real relationship without relating verbally. As every parent and judge knows, one needs to get both sides of the story to reconstruct reality. Learning how to ask the right questions is a skill worth developing. My favorite question is “why?”. Understanding motives (what moves people to an action) is key for discovering value systems and the heart of most issues. Flipping a coin (lot), letting God decide might be useful for settling a dispute, but not at the expense of abdicating God's requirement for justice. Offenses among imperfect creatures are inevitable, so knowing how to resolve difficulties is essential. Unresolved grievances lead to distance and bitterness and a ruptured relationship, separated by the bars of sin. If you want to repair a relationship, humble yourself and try these words: “God has convicted me of how wrong I was in sinning against you; I've sought His forgiveness, and now I'm seeking yours: Will your forgive me for...?” It is important for the other person to hear you confess (agree/speak the same thing) specifically what you've done that is wrong, so they know you won't (or don't want to) do it again, and will take steps to prevent it from recurring. Otherwise bars need to be set up to prevent further injury.
18:20-21 Words have consequences. We live in world created by a word. A word will cause it to melt. The right words can restore life to a relationship, resulting in both nourishment/ -edification and satisfaction-pleasure. The wrong words can bring distance and death. Verse 20 repeats the verb “satisfied” (in the Imperfect) to emphasize the ongoing pleasure that can result from the right words in a relationship. Stomach is more than a receptacle for food, it is also used as the center of appetites and emotion sometimes (Job 32:18; 40:16; Ps 17:14; Pr 20:27). Words go beyond inner satisfaction to the saving or destroying on one's life and that of others. Use them wisely. A critical parent or spouse who slashes at another's worth or value with sharp unjust words can leave lifelong scars (which God can heal).
Mt 12:36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. 37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."
Application: Do your words help or hurt your relationships? Try using the “forgiveness phraseology” (in italics in Observations above) on a failing relationship and see what happens (it couldn't hurt anything except your pride).
Prayer: God, may my words mirror Yours, and give life to others and to my relationships; and may my relationships reflect the unity You desire in Your children. I might need some supernatural help with this, so stay tuned. Thanks. Amen.

Song of Solomon This Song of Songs celebrates the wondrous passion of love, and tells the readers how to achieve it. Any nonsense about the Song being about God's love for His people or the Church is just that. God does use illustrations and allegories to describe His love for His people, but they usually take a paragraph or two. The Song clearly describes the romantic relationship between Solomon [Lover] and his Beloved, possibly Abishag (1 King 1), erotically and explicitly, yet poetically. We'll keep it family friendly, and highlight the specific applications to both singles and marrieds. The path to a happily ever ending starts while one is single.
To correctly understand and interpret the book inductively, one looks at the imagery, then determines which possible meanings fit the context. Deductively, one could understand the principles for passionate relationships, and then see if there's any material which matches up with those precepts, but that's a poor way to do Bible study and theology, leading to subjective bias and misinterpretation.
The translators have put the [speaker] in brackets, based upon the gender and number of the Hebrew word forms, but aren't inspired. The chorus [Friends] serve a didactic purpose, to emphasize or provide a foil for a point (like "Don't waken love until the proper time").
The Song describes the progression (courtship, wedding, maturation) and various hindrances to a wondrously passionate relationship, and are equally applicable to a great friendship, sans the erotic elements. The overall structure of the Song is chiastic, with the center element being the consummation of the relationship , bracketed by the two dream sequences, which in turn are bracketed by developmental aspects of love, bookended by reflections of home (in the king's court and at home). You can find more correspondence on your own. The defining statement of marriage in Genesis 2:24 has three aspects: “leaving” (the “intellectual” social and legal declaration of intent to have the relationship, leaving behind the single life); “cleaving” (the emotional bonding, like that of two pieces of paper being glued together so that one can't be separated from the other with them both being ripped apart) and “one flesh” (the development of physical intimacy where one plus one equals one). All good enduring physical relationships are built on a pure friendship, which is noted in the comments.

Song of Solomon 1 Longing for Love
1:1 "The Song of songs, which is Solomon's. 2 [Beloved] Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth; for your love is better than wine. 3 Your oils have a pleasing fragrance. Your name is oil poured forth, therefore the virgins love you. 4 Take me away with you. Let us hurry. May the king bring me into his rooms. [Friends] We will be glad and rejoice in you. We will praise your love more than wine! [Beloved] They are right to love you. 5 I am dark, but lovely, you daughters of Jerusalem, like Kedar's tents, like Solomon's curtains. 6 Don't stare at me because I am dark, because the sun has scorched me. My mother's sons were angry with me. They made me keeper of the vineyards. My own vineyard (person), I had to neglect. 7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves, where you graze your flock, where you rest them at noon; For why should I be as one who is veiled beside the flocks of your companions? 8 [Lover] If you don't know, most beautiful among women, follow the tracks of the sheep. Graze your young goats beside the shepherds' tents. 9 I have compared you, my love, to a steed in Pharaoh's chariots. 10 Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. 11 [Friends] We will make you earrings of gold, with studs of silver. 12 [Beloved] While the king sat at his table, my perfume spread its fragrance. 13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh, that lies between my breasts. 14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi. 15 [Lover] Behold, you are beautiful, my love. Behold, you are beautiful. Your eyes are doves. 16 [Beloved] Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, yes, pleasant; and our couch is verdant. 17 [Lover] The beams of our house are cedars. Our rafters are firs."

Observations: 1:1-17 In this courtship phase of the relationship, there is mutual admiration and attraction, and longing. But the relationship is hindered by her poor self image, because she is darkened by the sun in which she had to work. Her self-doubts are overcome by the affirmation of the Lover (Solomon), whose praise overcomes her “friend's” detractions.

Application: Self-worth and value are found in being pleasing to God and experiencing His pleasure and praise. Anything else is hollow.

Prayer: God, thanks that You delight in Your servants, and that I can be pleasing in Your sight, and not care what anyone else thinks. Amen.

Song of Solomon 2 Flame or Fire?
2:1 "[Beloved] I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys. 2 [Lover] As a lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters. 3 [Beloved] As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, his fruit was sweet to my taste. 4 He brought me to the banquet hall. His banner over me is love. 5 Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples; For I am faint with love. 6 His left hand is under my head. His right hand embraces me.
7 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, or by the hinds of the field, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it will delight/be pleasing. 8 The voice of my beloved! Behold, he comes, leaping on the mountains, skipping on the hills. 9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart. Behold, he stands behind our wall! He looks in at the windows. He glances through the lattice. 10 My beloved spoke, and said to me, "Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away. 11 For, behold, the winter is past. The rain is over and gone. 12 The flowers appear on the earth. The time of the singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land. 13 The fig tree ripens her green figs. The vines are in blossom. They give forth their fragrance. Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away." 14 [Lover] My dove in the clefts of the rock, In the hiding places of the mountainside, Let me see your face. Let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. 15 Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vineyards; for our vineyards are in blossom. 16 [Beloved] My beloved is mine, and I am his. He browses among the lilies. 17 Until the day is cool, and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be like a roe or a young hart on the mountains of Bether."

Observations: 2:1-6 Brain scans reveal that when women are shown a picture of their lover or baby, the rational parts of the brain shut down. So if you're a gal, trust the advice and counsel of those who know you, and want your best interest (love); the odds are that you're not thinking rationally.
2:7 This is a key to living happily ever after, and is repeated again in 3:7, and emphasized at the end. The last verb is a Qal Imperfect, which indicates future, ongoing action. There is an appropriate time to open the damper and stoke the flames, and the initial stages of a relationship is time for guarding one's heart, not pouring gasoline on it.
Love is like a fire, which if started at the wrong time, without proper safeguards (commitment) consumes those who start it, and eventually burns out. Emotion based relationships are like gasoline, it can start a flame with a bang, singeing those nearby, and then dies out. Love is not something that can be forced, but is built, and needs the proper fuel (loyal commitment to other-centered self-sacrifice) to keep burning bright and passionately. Fire contained in a fireplace is wonderful and useful. Without safeguards, it burns down the house. Let love sleep until the proper time. Adam was asleep (in the will of God) when God brought Eve to him.
2:8-14 The lover initiates the relationship at the proper time, and comes for his beloved. Usually the beloved subtly indicates her interest/availability for a relationship, by encouraging interest. Sometimes the shy/reserved need extra encouragement, but usually restraint is more appropriate. The other major principle of courtship is to not defraud the other person, promising what you don't intend to deliver, while using them to meet your need for worth, value or pleasure (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8).
2:15 The little foxes are those things that can spoil the relationship (insecurity, selfishness, no self-denial/control, ego, misunderstanding, non-communication, lack of steadfast commitment, etc.), against which both parties need to be vigilant, and remove the source of them. The lover takes the lead in resolving and removing the foxes. See the sermon Marriage: Feast or Famine on Truthbase.net for the tasks necessary for marriage to be a feast.

Application: Don't start things you can't finish, and wait until God says “Go”.

PS: You can't know the subjective will of God (like who you should marry) if you're not doing the objective will clearly outlined in Scripture. If you're wholeheartedly seeking God's will, according to His word, it's impossible to miss it.

Prayer: God, help me guard my heart, trusting You to give what's best, when it's best. Amen.

Song of Solomon 3 Doubts
3:1 "[Beloved] By night on my bed, I sought him whom my soul loves. I sought him, but I didn't find him. 2 I will get up now, and go about the city; in the streets and in the squares I will seek him whom my soul loves. I sought him, but I didn't find him. 3 The watchmen who go about the city found me; "Have you seen him whom my soul loves?" 4 I had scarcely passed from them, when I found him whom my soul loves. I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother's house, into the room of her who conceived me. 5 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, or by the hinds of the field, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it will delight/be pleasing. 6 Who is this who comes up from the wilderness like pillars of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and frankincense, with all spices of the merchant? 7 Behold, it is Solomon's carriage! Sixty mighty men are around it, of the mighty men of Israel. 8 They all handle the sword, and are expert in war. Every man has his sword on his thigh, because of fear in the night. 9 King Solomon made himself a carriage of the wood of Lebanon. 10 He made its pillars of silver, its bottom of gold, its seat of purple, its midst being paved with love, from the daughters of Jerusalem. 11 Go forth, you daughters of Zion, and see king Solomon, with the crown with which his mother has crowned him, in the day of his weddings, in the day of the gladness of his heart."

Observations: 3:1-4 Insecurity about the relationship gives the Beloved a bad dream. Having a great relationship with God, trusting that He meets all your needs, not only provides security but lays the foundation for a great marriage.
3:5 The major key is repeated. Don't waken love or passion before it's appropriate.
3:6-11 Solomon comes to get his bride.

Application: Looking to a finite person to meet all your needs is folly. Looking to an infinite God who has boundless grace and resources (and who can create whatever you need) is far wiser. Otherwise, you'll be disappointed.

Prayer: God, thanks that You are utterly sufficient for all my needs, and will bring about Your perfect will in my life as I depend upon You. Amen.

Song of Solomon 4 Passion and Purity
4:1 "[Lover] Behold, you are beautiful, my love. Behold, you are beautiful. Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is as a flock of goats, that descend from Mount Gilead. 2 Your teeth are like a newly shorn flock, which have come up from the washing, where every one of them has twins. None is bereaved among them. 3 Your lips are like scarlet thread. Your mouth is lovely. Your temples are like a piece of a pomegranate behind your veil. 4 Your neck is like David's tower built for an armory, whereon a thousand shields hang, all the shields of the mighty men. 5 Your two breasts are like two fawns that are twins of a roe, which feed among the lilies. 6 Until the day is cool, and the shadows flee away, I will go to the mountain of myrrh, to the hill of frankincense. 7 You are all beautiful, my love. There is no spot in you. 8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, with me from Lebanon. Look from the top of Amana, from the top of Senir and Hermon, from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards. 9 You have ravished my heart, my sister, my bride. You have ravished my heart with one of your eyes, with one chain of your neck. 10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine! The fragrance of your perfumes than all kinds of spices! 11 Your lips, my bride, drip like the honeycomb. Honey and milk are under your tongue. The smell of your garments is like the smell of Lebanon. 12 A locked up garden is my sister, my bride; a locked up spring, a sealed fountain. 13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates, with precious fruits: henna with spikenard plants, 14 spikenard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree; myrrh and aloes, with all the best spices, 15 a fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, flowing streams from Lebanon. 16 [Beloved] Awake, north wind; and come, you south! Blow on my garden, that its spices may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and taste his precious fruits."

Observations: 4:1-16 Solomon is quite smitten by the physical, emotional, and spiritual beauty of his beloved. He praises not just her physical beauty, but her love (other-centeredness) He calls her not just his bride, but his sister, underscoring the friendship. She has also kept herself pure, and not given favors, nor pieces of her heart to others. She views herself as his garden.

Application: Someone who gives parts of themselves away to a number of lovers, have less to give to the one they marry.

Prayer: Lord, help me keep my heart and body pure, regardless of my marital status. Amen.

Song of Solomon 5 Trouble in Paradise
5:1 "[Lover] I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride. I have gathered my myrrh with my spice; I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey; I have drunk my wine with my milk. [Friends] Eat, friends! Drink, yes, drink abundantly, beloved. 2 [Beloved] I was asleep, but my heart was awake. It is the voice of my beloved who knocks: "Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled; for my head is filled with dew, and my hair with the dampness of the night." 3 I have taken off my robe. Indeed, must I put it on? I have washed my feet. Indeed, must I soil them? 4 My beloved thrust his hand in through the latch opening. My heart pounded for him. 5 I rose up to open for my beloved. My hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with liquid myrrh, on the handles of the lock. 6 I opened to my beloved; but my beloved left; and had gone away. My heart went out when he spoke. I looked for him, but I didn't find him. I called him, but he didn't answer. 7 The watchmen who go about the city found me. They beat me. They bruised me. The keepers of the walls took my cloak away from me. 8 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, If you find my beloved, that you tell him that I am faint with love. 9 [Friends] How is your beloved better than another beloved, you fairest among women? How is your beloved better than another beloved, that you do so adjure us?
10 [Beloved] My beloved is white and ruddy. The best among ten thousand. 11 His head is like the purest gold. His hair is bushy, black as a raven. 12 His eyes are like doves beside the water brooks, washed with milk, mounted like jewels. 13 His cheeks are like a bed of spices with towers of perfumes. His lips are like lilies, dropping liquid myrrh. 14 His hands are like rings of gold set with beryl. His body is like ivory work overlaid with sapphires. 15 His legs are like pillars of marble set on sockets of fine gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. 16 His mouth is sweetness; yes, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem."

Observations: 5:1 The lovers consummate their relationship and fully enjoy each other.
5:2-9 In a dream, the Beloved fails to respond to her Lover until it is too late, and suffers anguish. The rejection causes pain and separation.
5:10-16 Reflecting on the desirability of her Lover, she resolves to look for him (next chapter).

Application: The essence of love is sacrificing yourself for doing what is in the best interest of another. Self-sacrifice is rarely convenient.

Prayer: God, You are the great giver; thanks for giving Yourself and your grace to me; help me give myself to benefit others. Amen.

Song of Solomon 6 Paradise Restored
6:1 "[Friends] Where has your beloved gone, you fairest among women? Where has your beloved turned, that we may seek him with you? 2 [Beloved] My beloved has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies. 3 I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine. He browses among the lilies, 4 [Lover] You are beautiful, my love, as Tirzah, lovely as Jerusalem, awesome as an army with banners. 5 Turn away your eyes from me, for they have overcome me. Your hair is like a flock of goats, that lie along the side of Gilead. 6 Your teeth are like a flock of ewes, which have come up from the washing; of which every one has twins; none is bereaved among them. 7 Your temples are like a piece of a pomegranate behind your veil. 8 There are sixty queens, eighty concubines, and virgins without number. 9 My dove, my perfect one, is unique. She is her mother's only daughter. She is the favorite one of her who bore her. The daughters saw her, and called her blessed; the queens and the concubines, and they praised her. 10 Who is she who looks forth as the morning, beautiful as the moon, clear as the sun, and awesome as an army with banners? 11 [Beloved] I went down into the nut tree grove, to see the green plants of the valley, to see whether the vine budded, and the pomegranates were in flower. 12 Without realizing it, my desire set me with my royal people's chariots. 13 [Friends] Return, return, Shulammite! Return, return, that we may gaze at you. [Lover] Why do you desire to gaze at the Shulammite, as at the dance of Mahanaim?"

Observations: 6:1-3 It appears that Solomon has dealt with her rejection (reluctant acceptance) by finding comfort in his other wives and concubines. Yet the Beloved affirms their commitment to each other in verse 3.
6:4-13 Her seeking of Solomon paid off; he sees her multifaceted uniqueness and is again attracted to her. Her receptivity and responsiveness effect reconciliation.

Application: If both parties take responsibility to reconcile the relationship, happiness is rapid.

Prayer: God, keep me from being bitter or resentful in my relationship, so that I may experience the joy and delight You intend. Amen.

Song of Solomon 7 Mutual Appreciation
7:1 "[Lover] How beautiful are your feet in sandals, prince's daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a skillful workman. 2 Your body is like a round goblet, no mixed wine is wanting. Your waist is like a heap of wheat, set about with lilies. 3 Your two breasts are like two fawns, that are twins of a roe. 4 Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are like the pools in Heshbon by the gate of Bathrabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon which looks toward Damascus. 5 Your head on you is like Carmel. The hair of your head like purple. The king is held captive in its tresses. 6 How beautiful and how pleasant you are, love, for delights! 7 This, your stature, is like a palm tree, your breasts like its fruit. 8 I said, "I will climb up into the palm tree. I will take hold of its fruit." Let your breasts be like clusters of the vine, the smell of your breath like apples, 9 [Beloved] Your mouth like the best wine, that goes down smoothly for my beloved, gliding through the lips of those who are asleep. 10 I am my beloved's. His desire is toward me. 11 Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field. Let us lodge in the villages. 12 Let's go early up to the vineyards. Let's see whether the vine has budded, its blossom is open, and the pomegranates are in flower. There I will give you my love. 13 The mandrakes give forth fragrance. At our doors are all kinds of precious fruits, new and old, which I have stored up for you, my beloved."

Observations: 7:1-8 The Lover's eyes catch sight of his Beloved, starting with her strappy sandals, and he works his way up.
7:9-13 She responds to his appreciation with new and old delights.

Application: Expressing appreciation builds a relationships to new heights.

Prayer: God, thanks that in Your goodness, You created the capacity for delight, and the means for fulfilling it. Amen.

Song of Solomon 8 Purity and Commitment Yields Passion
8:1 "[Beloved] Oh that you were like my brother, who nursed from the breasts of my mother! If I found you outside, I would kiss you; yes, and no one would despise me. 2 I would lead you, bringing you into my mother's house, who would instruct me. I would have you drink spiced wine, of the juice of my pomegranate. 3 His left hand would be under my head. His right hand would embrace me. 4 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it will delight/be pleasing.
5 [Friends] Who is this who comes up from the wilderness, leaning on her beloved? Under the apple tree I aroused you. There your mother conceived you. There she was in labor and bore you. 6 Set me as a seal on your heart, as a seal on your arm; for love is strong as death. Jealousy is as cruel as Sheol. Its flashes are flashes of fire, a very flame of Yahweh. 7 Many waters can't quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man would give all the wealth of his house for love, he would be utterly scorned.
8 [Friends] We have a little sister. She has no breasts. What shall we do for our sister in the day when she is to be spoken for? 9 If she is a wall, we will build on her a turret of silver. if she is a door, we will enclose her with boards of cedar. 10 [Beloved] I am a wall, and my breasts like towers, then I was in his eyes like one who found completeness/favor. 11 Solomon had a vineyard at Baal Hamon. He leased out the vineyard to keepers. Each was to bring a thousand shekels of silver for its fruit. 12 My own vineyard is before me. The thousand are for you, Solomon; two hundred for those who tend its fruit. 13 [Lover] You who dwell in the gardens, with friends in attendance, let me hear your voice! 14 [Beloved] Come away, my beloved! Be like a gazelle or a young stag on the mountains of spices!"

Observations: 8:1-4 The secret to passion is purity, not waking love until it pleases. This theme is repeated at the end of the chapter.
8:5-7 The commitment to the relationship (seal) is what enables it to withstand the flood of problems that would seek to destroy it. Money can't buy you love, it is built through mutual commitment. Since marriage is reflective of the wisdom and unity of God (Ephesians 5), it's one of those things Satan seeks to destroy (even before it starts).
8:8-13 The book ends with a flashback to the Beloved's brothers, asking what they should do for their little sister until she matures to a marriageable age. If she is a wall, keeping visitors or violators to her garden out (pure and chaste), they will honor her with silver adornments. If she is a door, providing easy access to passers-by, they will have to restrict her to protect her.
She affirms that she is a wall, and as a result found favor and complete bliss in the relationship with her Beloved. In return for her brother's protection of her vineyard, which she gave to Solomon, her brothers should be doubly honored. The Beloved and her Lover ride off into the sunset.

Application: Happily ever after starts with purity and is sealed with commitment.

Prayer: God, thanks for Your instruction on how to get the most pleasure out of Your creation. Amen.


Digging Deeper:

God in a nutshell: God created marriage and sex to be an intoxicating pleasure. He gives what's best when it's best, and intends that those rightly related to Him and each other (the righteous) reap blessings He created. As Solomon said in Ecclesiastes, there is a time for everything, and that would include the awaking of love.

Us in a nutshell: We can only experience God's best if we do what's best, and trust Him with the rest. Wondrous passion is not automatic, but requires effort to align our desires and actions with God's will. Waking love before the proper time is not the way to live happily ever after, but winds up burning people. An unwillingness to eliminate the little foxes, such as insecurity, selfishness, and an inadequate relationship with God, doesn't yield delight either. A commitment to forgive, communicate, accommodate, and appreciate, builds and feeds the fires of passion.


Where to Go for More:

Song of Solomon complete text

Song of Solomon 1
1:1 The Song of songs, which is Solomon's. 2 [Beloved] Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth; for your love is better than wine. 3 Your oils have a pleasing fragrance. Your name is oil poured forth, therefore the virgins love you. 4 Take me away with you. Let us hurry. The king has brought me into his rooms. [Friends] We will be glad and rejoice in you. We will praise your love more than wine! [Beloved] They are right to love you. 5 I am dark, but lovely, you daughters of Jerusalem, like Kedar's tents, like Solomon's curtains. 6 Don't stare at me because I am dark, because the sun has scorched me. My mother's sons were angry with me. They made me keeper of the vineyards. I haven't kept my own vineyard. 7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves, where you graze your flock, where you rest them at noon; For why should I be as one who is veiled beside the flocks of your companions? 8 [Lover] If you don't know, most beautiful among women, follow the tracks of the sheep. Graze your young goats beside the shepherds' tents. 9 I have compared you, my love, to a steed in Pharaoh's chariots. 10 Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. 11 [Friends] We will make you earrings of gold, with studs of silver. 12 [Beloved] While the king sat at his table, my perfume spread its fragrance. 13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh, that lies between my breasts. 14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi. 15 [Lover] Behold, you are beautiful, my love. Behold, you are beautiful. Your eyes are doves. 16 [Beloved] Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, yes, pleasant; and our couch is verdant. 17 [Lover] The beams of our house are cedars. Our rafters are firs.

Song of Solomon 2
2:1 [Beloved] I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys. 2 [Lover] As a lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters. 3 [Beloved] As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, his fruit was sweet to my taste. 4 He brought me to the banquet hall. His banner over me is love. 5 Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples; For I am faint with love. 6 His left hand is under my head. His right hand embraces me. 7 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, or by the hinds of the field, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it so desires. 8 The voice of my beloved! Behold, he comes, leaping on the mountains, skipping on the hills. 9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart. Behold, he stands behind our wall! He looks in at the windows. He glances through the lattice. 10 My beloved spoke, and said to me, "Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away. 11 For, behold, the winter is past. The rain is over and gone. 12 The flowers appear on the earth. The time of the singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land. 13 The fig tree ripens her green figs. The vines are in blossom. They give forth their fragrance. Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away." 14 [Lover] My dove in the clefts of the rock, In the hiding places of the mountainside, Let me see your face. Let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. 15 Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vineyards; for our vineyards are in blossom. 16 [Beloved] My beloved is mine, and I am his. He browses among the lilies. 17 Until the day is cool, and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be like a roe or a young hart on the mountains of Beth

Song of Solomon 3
3:1 [Beloved] By night on my bed, I sought him whom my soul loves. I sought him, but I didn't find him. 2 I will get up now, and go about the city; in the streets and in the squares I will seek him whom my soul loves. I sought him, but I didn't find him. 3 The watchmen who go about the city found me; "Have you seen him whom my soul loves?" 4 I had scarcely passed from them, when I found him whom my soul loves. I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother's house, into the room of her who conceived me. 5 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, or by the hinds of the field, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it so desires. 6 Who is this who comes up from the wilderness like pillars of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and frankincense, with all spices of the merchant? 7 Behold, it is Solomon's carriage! Sixty mighty men are around it, of the mighty men of Israel. 8 They all handle the sword, and are expert in war. Every man has his sword on his thigh, because of fear in the night. 9 King Solomon made himself a carriage of the wood of Lebanon. 10 He made its pillars of silver, its bottom of gold, its seat of purple, its midst being paved with love, from the daughters of Jerusalem. 11 Go forth, you daughters of Zion, and see king Solomon, with the crown with which his mother has crowned him, in the day of his weddings, in the day of the gladness of his heart.
Song of Solomon 4
4:1 [Lover] Behold, you are beautiful, my love. Behold, you are beautiful. Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is as a flock of goats, that descend from Mount Gilead. 2 Your teeth are like a newly shorn flock, which have come up from the washing, where every one of them has twins. None is bereaved among them. 3 Your lips are like scarlet thread. Your mouth is lovely. Your temples are like a piece of a pomegranate behind your veil. 4 Your neck is like David's tower built for an armory, whereon a thousand shields hang, all the shields of the mighty men. 5 Your two breasts are like two fawns that are twins of a roe, which feed among the lilies. 6 Until the day is cool, and the shadows flee away, I will go to the mountain of myrrh, to the hill of frankincense. 7 You are all beautiful, my love. There is no spot in you. 8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, with me from Lebanon. Look from the top of Amana, from the top of Senir and Hermon, from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards. 9 You have ravished my heart, my sister, my bride. You have ravished my heart with one of your eyes, with one chain of your neck. 10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine! The fragrance of your perfumes than all kinds of spices! 11 Your lips, my bride, drip like the honeycomb. Honey and milk are under your tongue. The smell of your garments is like the smell of Lebanon. 12 A locked up garden is my sister, my bride; a locked up spring, a sealed fountain. 13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates, with precious fruits: henna with spikenard plants, 14 spikenard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree; myrrh and aloes, with all the best spices, 15 a fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, flowing streams from Lebanon. 16 [Beloved] Awake, north wind; and come, you south! Blow on my garden, that its spices may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and taste his precious fruits.

Song of Solomon 5
5:1 [Lover] I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride. I have gathered my myrrh with my spice; I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey; I have drunk my wine with my milk. [Friends] Eat, friends! Drink, yes, drink abundantly, beloved. 2 [Beloved] I was asleep, but my heart was awake. It is the voice of my beloved who knocks: "Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled; for my head is filled with dew, and my hair with the dampness of the night." 3 I have taken off my robe. Indeed, must I put it on? I have washed my feet. Indeed, must I soil them? 4 My beloved thrust his hand in through the latch opening. My heart pounded for him. 5 I rose up to open for my beloved. My hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with liquid myrrh, on the handles of the lock. 6 I opened to my beloved; but my beloved left; and had gone away. My heart went out when he spoke. I looked for him, but I didn't find him. I called him, but he didn't answer. 7 The watchmen who go about the city found me. They beat me. They bruised me. The keepers of the walls took my cloak away from me. 8 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, If you find my beloved, that you tell him that I am faint with love. 9 [Friends] How is your beloved better than another beloved, you fairest among women? How is your beloved better than another beloved, that you do so adjure us? 10 [Beloved] My beloved is white and ruddy. The best among ten thousand. 11 His head is like the purest gold. His hair is bushy, black as a raven. 12 His eyes are like doves beside the water brooks, washed with milk, mounted like jewels. 13 His cheeks are like a bed of spices with towers of perfumes. His lips are like lilies, dropping liquid myrrh. 14 His hands are like rings of gold set with beryl. His body is like ivory work overlaid with sapphires. 15 His legs are like pillars of marble set on sockets of fine gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. 16 His mouth is sweetness; yes, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem.

Song of Solomon 6
6:1 [Friends] Where has your beloved gone, you fairest among women? Where has your beloved turned, that we may seek him with you? 2 [Beloved] My beloved has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies. 3 I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine. He browses among the lilies, 4 [Lover] You are beautiful, my love, as Tirzah, lovely as Jerusalem, awesome as an army with banners. 5 Turn away your eyes from me, for they have overcome me. Your hair is like a flock of goats, that lie along the side of Gilead. 6 Your teeth are like a flock of ewes, which have come up from the washing; of which every one has twins; none is bereaved among them. 7 Your temples are like a piece of a pomegranate behind your veil. 8 There are sixty queens, eighty concubines, and virgins without number. 9 My dove, my perfect one, is unique. She is her mother's only daughter. She is the favorite one of her who bore her. The daughters saw her, and called her blessed; the queens and the concubines, and they praised her. 10 Who is she who looks forth as the morning, beautiful as the moon, clear as the sun, and awesome as an army with banners? 11 [Beloved] I went down into the nut tree grove, to see the green plants of the valley, to see whether the vine budded, and the pomegranates were in flower. 12 Without realizing it, my desire set me with my royal people's chariots. 13 [Friends] Return, return, Shulammite! Return, return, that we may gaze at you. [Lover] Why do you desire to gaze at the Shulammite, as at the dance of Mahanaim?

Song of Solomon 7
7:1 [Lover] How beautiful are your feet in sandals, prince's daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a skillful workman. 2 Your body is like a round goblet, no mixed wine is wanting. Your waist is like a heap of wheat, set about with lilies. 3 Your two breasts are like two fawns, that are twins of a roe. 4 Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are like the pools in Heshbon by the gate of Bathrabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon which looks toward Damascus. 5Your head on you is like Carmel. The hair of your head like purple. The king is held captive in its tresses. 6 How beautiful and how pleasant you are, love, for delights! 7 This, your stature, is like a palm tree, your breasts like its fruit. 8 I said, "I will climb up into the palm tree. I will take hold of its fruit." Let your breasts be like clusters of the vine, the smell of your breath like apples, 9 [Beloved] Your mouth like the best wine, that goes down smoothly for my beloved, gliding through the lips of those who are asleep. 10 I am my beloved's. His desire is toward me. 11 Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field. Let us lodge in the villages. 12 Let's go early up to the vineyards. Let's see whether the vine has budded, its blossom is open, and the pomegranates are in flower. There I will give you my love. 13 The mandrakes give forth fragrance. At our doors are all kinds of precious fruits, new and old, which I have stored up for you, my beloved.

Song of Solomon 8
8:1 [Beloved] Oh that you were like my brother, who nursed from the breasts of my mother! If I found you outside, I would kiss you; yes, and no one would despise me. 2 I would lead you, bringing you into my mother's house, who would instruct me. I would have you drink spiced wine, of the juice of my pomegranate. 3 His left hand would be under my head. His right hand would embrace me. 4 I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it so desires. 5 [Friends] Who is this who comes up from the wilderness, leaning on her beloved? Under the apple tree I aroused you. There your mother conceived you. There she was in labor and bore you. 6 Set me as a seal on your heart, as a seal on your arm; for love is strong as death. Jealousy is as cruel as Sheol <Note:Sheol is the place of the dead.>. Its flashes are flashes of fire, a very flame of Yahweh. 7 Many waters can't quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man would give all the wealth of his house for love, he would be utterly scorned. 8 [Friends] We have a little sister. She has no breasts. What shall we do for our sister in the day when she is to be spoken for? 9 If she is a wall, we will build on her a turret of silver. if she is a door, we will enclose her with boards of cedar. 10 [Beloved] I am a wall, and my breasts like towers, then I was in his eyes like one who found peace. 11 Solomon had a vineyard at Baal Hamon. He leased out the vineyard to keepers. Each was to bring a thousand shekels of silver for its fruit. 12 My own vineyard is before me. The thousand are for you, Solomon; two hundred for those who tend its fruit. 13 [Lover] You who dwell in the gardens, with friends in attendance, let me hear your voice! 14 [Beloved] Come away, my beloved! Be like a gazelle or a young stag on the mountains of spices!

Genesis 32-34 Friend or Foe?

Psalm 7:1-5, 8 A Plea From Pure Heart and Hands
7:1 "Yahweh, my God, I take refuge/have put my trust in You. Save me from all those who pursue me, and deliver me, 2 lest they tear apart my soul like a lion, ripping it in pieces, while there is none to deliver. 3 Yahweh, my God, if I have done this, if there is iniquity in my hands, 4 if I have rewarded evil to him who was at peace with me (yes, if I have delivered him who without cause was my adversary), 5 let the enemy pursue my soul, and overtake it; yes, let him tread my life down to the earth, and lay my glory in the dust. Selah...8 Yahweh administers judgment to the peoples. Judge/vindicate me, Yahweh, according to my righteousness, and to my integrity that is in me.“

Observation: Psalm 6 (last post) asked God for help while reaping consequences of one's sin. In Psalm 7 the person is persecuted without cause. Note the four things this guy didn't do (with four consequences).

Application: When difficulties arise, you don't want them to be through your fault. That way you can confidently look to see how God plans to bless you through the tough time. Can you make the appeal of verse 8?

Prayer: O Just Judge of the Universe, help me always be in a place where You can bless me, even if that means suffering for doing what's right. Amen.

Proverbs 2:14-17 Rejoicing in Evil
2:14 “(10 wisdom...knowledge...11 discretion... understanding will keep you, 12 to deliver you from the way of evil, from the men 13 who forsake the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness) 14 who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the perverseness of evil; 15 who are crooked in their ways, and wayward in their paths

Observations: 2:14-17 The fruits of Proverbs, wisdom ...understanding, are designed to deliver the one who develops them from evil and evil men (and evil women in the next verses). The author describes the characteristics of the evil men, who haven't changed in thousands of years. They are those who left the light to slither in the dark. Their joy and delight is not just in acts of evil, but in the fact that it is perverse. Pushing the envelop for the sake of rebelling against civilization-building norms is the essence of perverseness. Their highest good is bad. Their value system embraces that which contributes to their temporal happiness and eternal demise. Perhaps they never walked far enough along the path of uprightness to experience it's benefits, or perhaps their lust for the temporal has blinded them to their condition and fate.

Application: Those who have trained themselves to develop wisdom will not walk with those headed to destruction.

Prayer: Lord, help me embrace Your values and paths, and deliver me from those who rejoice in evil and value perversity. Thanks. Amen.


Genesis 32–34 Friend or Foe?

Genesis 32 Praying and Wrestling with God
32:1 "Jacob went on his way, and the angels of God met him. 2 When he saw them, Jacob said, "This is God's army." 3 Jacob sent messengers in front of him to Esau 5...I have sent to tell my lord, that I may find favor in your sight.'" 6 The messengers returned to Jacob, saying, "...he comes to meet you, and four hundred men with him." 7 Then Jacob was greatly afraid and was distressed. 9 Jacob said, "God of my father Abraham, and God of my father Isaac, Yahweh, who said to me, 'Return to your country, and to your relatives, and I will do you good,' 10 I am not worthy of the least of all the loving kindnesses (hesed loyalty), and of all the truth (faithfulness), which you have shown to your servant; for with just my staff I passed over this Jordan; and now I have become two companies. 11 Please deliver me from the hand of my brother, from the hand of Esau: for I fear him, lest he come and strike me, and the mothers with the children. 12 You said, 'I will surely do you good, and make your seed as the sand of the sea, which can't be numbered because there are so many.'" 
13 He lodged there that night, and took from that which he had with him, a present for Esau, his brother: 20...For, he said, "I will appease him with the present that goes before me, and afterward I will see his face. Perhaps he will accept me."  
24 Jacob was left alone, and wrestled with a man there until the breaking of the day. 25 When he saw that he didn't prevail against him, he touched the hollow of his thigh, and the hollow of Jacob's thigh was strained, as he wrestled. 26 The man said, "Let me go, for the day breaks." Jacob said, "I won't let you go, unless you bless me." 27 He said to him, "What is your name?" He said, "Jacob." 28 He said, "Your name will no longer be called Jacob, but Israel; for you have fought with God and with men, and have prevailed." 29 Jacob asked him, "Please tell me your name." He said, "Why is it that you ask what my name is?" He blessed him there. 30 Jacob called the name of the place Peniel for, he said, "I have seen God face to face, and my life is preserved." 31...he limped because of his thigh. 32 Therefore the children of Israel don't eat the sinew of the hip, which is on the hollow of the thigh, to this day, because he touched the hollow of Jacob's thigh in the sinew of the hip."


Question: Jacob is a guy who's been incredibly blessed by God; he knows it, and everyone knows it. God guides him directly; angels appear to him; and he and God roll around in the dirt together. Yet he can't trust God to protect him from his big hairy brother.
What is Jacob's problem? (It's a problem faced by a lot of self-sufficient, hard-working types. Think about it, then check out the Application below.)

Observations: 32:9-11 In his first recorded prayer, Jacob does well to remind himself (and God) that he is in this situation because of obeying God in returning. A little humility and reminding God of His promises probably don't hurt either.
32:24 Whatever is going on here, Jacob was persistent, and got: blessed, a new name, and a limp. He says his opponent was God.
32:28 Jacob (supplanter-who takes the place of another by force or treachery) gets a new name Israel (struggles with God).

Application: Failure to depend daily upon God results in panic when facing problems beyond our strength.

Prayer: God, help me walk with You every day, so the stormy times will be a walk in the park. Amen.

Genesis 33 Peace with God...then Man
33:1 "Jacob lifted up his eyes, and looked, and, behold, Esau was coming, and with him four hundred men. 4 Esau ran to meet him, embraced him, fell on his neck, kissed him, and they wept. 5 He lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, "Who are these with you?" He said, "The children whom God has graciously given your servant."10 Jacob said, "Please, no, if I have now found favor in your sight, then receive my present at my hand, because I have seen your face, as one sees the face of God, and you were pleased with me. 11 Please take the gift that I brought to you, because God has dealt graciously with me, and because I have enough." He urged him, and he took it. 16 So Esau returned that day on his way to Seir. 17 Jacob traveled to Succoth, built himself a house, and made shelters for his  livestock. Therefore the name of the place is called Succoth (Booths) 18 Jacob came in peace to the city of Shechem, which is in the land of Canaan, when he came from Paddan Aram; and encamped before the city. 19 He bought the parcel of ground where he had spread his tent, at the hand of the children of Hamor, Shechem's father, for a hundred pieces of money. 20 He erected an altar there, and called it El Elohe Israel."

Observations: 33:10 It's better to have God pleased with us, than be pleasing to man.
Proverbs 16:7 "When a man's ways please Yahweh, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him."
33:20 El Elohe Israel = The Mighty God of Israel. Altars were for making sacrifices, in this case, of thanksgiving.

Application: It's good to regularly remind ourselves of God's mighty help and protection. A heap of stones or a journal or diary is preferable to a limp.

Prayer: Mighty God of Israel, may I be pleasing in Your sight every day. Amen.

Genesis 34 Violations
34:1 "Dinah, the daughter of Leah, whom she bore to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 2 Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, the prince of the land, saw her. He took her, lay with her, and humbled her. 3 His soul joined to Dinah, the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young lady, and spoke kindly to the young lady. 4 Shechem spoke to his father, Hamor, saying, "Get me this young lady as a wife."
7 The sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it. The men were grieved, and they were very angry, because he had done folly in Israel in lying with Jacob's daughter; a which thing ought not to be done. 8 Hamor talked with them, saying, "The soul of my son, Shechem, longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife. 9 Make marriages with us. Give your daughters to us, and take our daughters for yourselves. 10 You shall dwell with us, and the land will be before you. Live and trade in it, and get possessions in it."
14..."We can't do this thing, to give our sister to one who is uncircumcised; for that is a reproach to us. 15 Only on this condition will we consent to you. If you will be as we are, that every male of you be circumcised. 25 It happened on the third day, when they were sore, that two of Jacob's sons, Simeon and Levi, Dinah's brothers, each took his sword, came upon the unsuspecting city, and killed all the males. 26 They killed Hamor and Shechem, his son, with the edge of the sword, and took Dinah out of Shechem's house, and went away. 27 Jacob's sons came on the dead, and plundered the city, because they had defiled their sister.
30 Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, "You have troubled me, to make me odious to the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and the Perizzites. I am few in number. They will gather themselves together against me and strike me, and I will be destroyed, I and my house." 31 They said, "Should he deal with our sister as with a prostitute?"

Observations: 34:1 Lesson to Exodus generation: Mingling and intermarrying with pagans leads to defilement.
34:2 Lesson to parents: If you don't take pains to parent properly, your children will cause you pain. Choose wisely. Shechem was another guy whose parents didn't train him to control his passions, and who consequently brought permanent pain to the entire family. Jacob had the same problem (in 34:30), and will be reaping the sorrowful consequences of failing to father properly for the rest of his life.
34:7-9 Hamor makes a tempting case for doing what “ought not to be done.” Separation from sinners is a condition of blessing.
34:24-31 Unfortunately revenge, not separation and purity was the motive for Simeon and Levi. They defiled themselves (losing out on blessing and getting cursed Genesis 49:5-7) by indulging their passion for revenge and honor, adding breaking covenant with Hamor to their sin.

Application: Master your emotions or they will master you.

Prayer: God save me from the folly of following my feelings unguided by Your Word. Amen.


Digging Deeper:

God in a nutshell: God blesses His people (surprise, surprise); lets us reap painful consequences of independence; orchestrates and initiates circumstances beyond our resources because He desires us to live in dependence upon Him.

Us in a nutshell: We think everything depends on us (obedience and wise choices do); tend to follow our feelings, pleasing ourselves and others rather than God. Reap consequences, but are slow to learn.